Everyone gets a little nervous from time to time, it’s a normal reaction designed to motivate and focus our attention and once the event has passed so does the nervousness.
Anxiety is different; it’s a more persistent state of agitation and distress that affects both the body and mind. It can include symptoms such as increased heart rate; sweating; dry mouth; nausea; muscle tension; fear of losing control or fear of dying. With body and mind in such a state it is easy to see why – in an attempt to prevent further attacks of anxiety – a person might alter their behaviour.
Symptoms of Anxiety
Worried and anxious most of the time
Difficulties in reaching a calm state
Becoming more irritable
Finding it hard to relax
On edge most of the time
Regularly experiencing difficulty in falling or staying asleep
If you recognise some or all of the above you may be suffering from anxiety. Anxiety goes beyond usual temporary nervousness about a job interview or difficult conversation, the type of anxiety that needs help is persistent and uncontrollable.
Anxiety can be extremely debilitating affecting your ability to do the things you want to do and can put a strain on relationships. It can be accompanied by a wide variety of physical symptoms including trembling; twitching; sweating; nausea; diarrhoea; aches and pains; irritable bowel; headaches and heart disease; as well as fear; phobia; depression and stress. If you suspect you have anxiety, you probably have.
What Causes Anxiety?
It is estimated that one in three sufferers witnessed a parent or someone close who suffered with anxiety and didn’t seek help and overcome their anxiety. Other factors include negative childhood experiences; past or present trauma; abuse; being undermined and persistent knocks to confidence. The triggers may be low level or spaced out, but if they are allowed to continue they can lead to severe and debilitating anxiety.
What Can I Do To Help Myself?
Notice the times you are feeling anxious, is it a situation or a person? Do you need to have a difficult conversation or learn how to be assertive, how can you learn these skills and who do you know that can help you? Now ask for that help.
Are you caring for yourself? Exercise, healthy food and good quality sleep are all useful for alleviating the symptoms of anxiety. You’ll be surprised at what happens when you look after yourself.
Listen to your inner chatter, does it support or punish you? Are your thoughts rational or exaggerated? Learn to recognise what’s real and true, and stick with that.
Is your life hectic and out of balance? Can you reduce how much you’re doing or use time and task management tools to make your life more organised?
Seeking Professional Help
Don’t allow your fear or need for secrecy stop you from seeking treatment for anxiety. You deserve to be happier and to free to do the things you need or long to do. When you are ready to be free of your anxiety call me, Dawn Haworth, on 07818 840 841 or email dawn@lifedesignsandmore.co.uk to make an appointment
What Sort of Issues have People Brought To Therapy?
Arguments, bullying, aggression
Lack of confidence
Life changing illness or injury
Low self esteem
Nervousness
Overwhelm and worry
Panic attacks
Performance anxiety
Separation & divorce
Shyness
Social anxiety